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An Opportunity to Receive

I’ve recently experienced what I want to call a healing crisis. Some might choose to call it the 24 hour flu. I’m choosing healing crisis because I know that my body knows more about what I need and don’t need than I do.

I spent most of one night alternating between waves of chills and sweats combined with an unknown number of trips to the washroom. By morning all I could do was to recognize that I was not going anywhere but to bed. I was drained and emptied of every bit of energy reserve. I was able to surrender to what my body was requiring and demanding…..sleep.

The most difficult part of the experience was asking for help. The thought of going any further from my bed to the bathroom was out of the question and I knew that I was needing to rehydrate soon.

As a mom and healing practitioner for the majority of my life, my comfort level is helping others, not in asking for help myself. I can step in and do anything for anyone else with complete willingness and desire. When it comes to me asking for help, which included recognizing that even looking for my electrolyte stash felt like the most enormous task I could imagine for the day, I realized how difficult it is for me to be able to receive and to ask for help.

I learned early on that I needed to be able to do life on my own and that meant every part of it. Over the years I have slowly been able to ask for help with more ease in certain parts of my life, like repairing things in my house or car, or getting work done around my house. However, asking for someone to actually take care of my personal needs is so out of my comfort zone.

Fortunately, a long time friend from out of town was visiting and we already had plans to get together. I was pretty confident that I could ask her to help out and at the same time forgo our previous plans we had made.

It was perfect: I was able to admit my difficulty in asking for help and cried as I expressed that to her. She did all the little things that I couldn’t imagine being able to do and I felt such deep gratitude for her presence and giving.

I am in awe of how life lessons can be found everywhere. In my moments of weakness I found the strength to ask for help, which I would never be able to do when I am feeling strong. And yet it took amazing inner strength for me to admit that I needed help from someone else in that particular moment.

Is there any area in your life that you have difficulty in asking for or receiving help?


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Toxic Thoughts…….possibilities

May the final weeks of 2011 be exactly perfect in every way.

At times your idea of perfect might be different than what you get, which can be really interesting and even challenging.  What if you could drop into trusting that everything really is perfect and that each thing that doesn’t feel that great really is an opportunity to look at it from another place or to do it different somehow?

I know it can feel like a big stretch sometimes, though it can also turn a perceived disaster into mystical magic at times too.

I’ve noticed and experimented some with this over the years……how do I get through the holidays in a state of peaceful calm and joy?  After all, isn’t that what the season is all about?


New Possibilities

Here is an example of what I’m talking about.  You know all the amazing food and drink that seems to show up right now, and only once a year?

The temptations abound everywhere from the eggnog to the chocolates to the smoked applewood cheese and all the scrumptous dips and chips.  Parties, dinners and gatherings of all kinds abound along with all those goodies that often seem to show up for some of us on our hips by morning.

I used to find myself in constant judgment and negativity about all the toxins and bad stuff made with all the sugar, flour and alcohol connected with the season.  Lots of toxic thoughts about the toxic stuff and feeling really gross after certain parties and dinners.

Then I began to realize that maybe my thoughts are actually way more toxic than the food itself……mmmm.  And I began to question myself,  “What if I am grateful for that amazing piece of fudge I long for and eat it with full gratitude and attention as the delicious texture, flavor, aroma and sense of satisfaction my taste buds experience?”

Wow!  What a wonderful experience to simply enjoy the seasonal food and drinks knowing that this is the last time I’ll have it for another year.

My body feels so different when I eat the sugary cookies and candies this way.  In fact, sometimes I only want to eat one of the cookies because when I eat it in gratitude and awareness, that is all I need.  When I forget to do this, I often find myself eating numerous pieces and not feeling satisfied.

I invite you to explore if there is there any particular way you can shift your thinking about what you choose to eat or drink this holiday season?  How would it feel to shift into gratitude and awareness?  What do you think might change inside you?

Is there any other areas during the holidays where you might be able to shift your thinking into a place of gratitude and awareness?

You do have a choice in each and every situation to do it differently.  It can be easy to forget at times and I encourage you to allow yourself some space while you explore the options.

All the information and wisdom you need is within you.  I invite you to trust yourself and to use the challenges as opportunities to have a look and a listen to what other possibilities there might be.


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