One of the cards from my deck of angel cards says, “You only need your approval”. Really? Wow, that is such a big concept for me to bring inside myself and into my heart space. You mean I don’t need to keep considering absolutely everything and everyone when I make a choice or decision?
It became incredibly apparent how important approval was for me when I took the enormous step a couple of years ago and opened a Facebook account. I found it fascinating how much anxiety I felt even considering writing a comment on my wall.
Then, once I had actually taken the plunge and posted something, I had huge anxiety about whether or not anyone would read it or even hit the ‘like’ button. It has been intriguing to watch all my reactions regarding the entire approval process through the Facebook journey.
Even more recently, I’ve been tuned in to really see, realize and feel how my need for approval has permeated every aspect of my life and thinking. I look for my own approval about how much I’ve managed to accomplish or get done in a day, as well as for the approval of others in so many ways, ranging from the way I live my life to what food I buy and eat.
I’ve even had a really difficult time coming up with the best way to bring up the subject here in writing because I find myself going all over the place with the topic. The more I’ve thought about it, the more I’ve seen how big a role it has been playing in my life all these years. It’s like some automatic ingrained part that I often haven’t even seen or noticed.
I’m curious now that I’ve brought the subject up and have a few questions and thoughts I’d love to explore with you.
Has the need for approval ever been a challenge for you now or in the past?
Are you aware of approval needs affecting choices you make in your life? If so, where do you find it the most difficult? the easiest?
Do find yourself getting caught making choices based on your perceived thoughts from others?
Are you able to drop into your heart to make a choice based on what is to your highest good? If so, what is most helpful for you to be able to do this?
What helps you the most step away from approval from others?
Please feel free to email me directly or even add a comment on the blog page to create a conversation and dialogue regarding this fascinating and challenging topic.
With much love and peace,
Cindy
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